It is very difficult to find peace of mind these days. Even if you are in a happy relationship, knowing that you have peace of mind is very important for your own well-being and the relationship you are maintaining with others. Because unless our own mind is peaceful, we will not be able to maintain any relationship properly. For this, here are some tips, which will help you to find peace of mind.
Avoid doing these things in any relationship-
Blaming other people for how you feel – Instead of blaming other people for how you feel, learn to pay attention to the thoughts that create your feelings and be alert about them. You will immediately feel much more powerful and you will have control over how you think, feel and look.
Fighting to be ‘right’ – Instead of fighting to appear right in any relationship, accept that other people are going to have different ideas about things than you. Put your ego aside and try to understand their mindset.
Dropping people out because you feel provoked – Yes, some people end up hurting others because of their own discomfort. There is definitely a time and place to end relationships that don’t serve us. But there is also a lot we can learn and grow from. But that’s only if we are willing to stop and understand why we feel provoked and why we don’t have control over our thoughts.
Using them for validation – It feels good when people in our lives behave the way we want them to. However, if your happiness is dependent on your partner behaving a certain way in the relationship, you are using your romantic relationship for validation. Instead, learn to validate yourself by challenging and changing your thoughts about yourself.
Forget about the past version of yourself and focus on today, on what you have learned now – this serves no purpose. And in fact, that past version of you was perfect at that time, doing the best you could with the knowledge, skin and information you had at the time. So don’t try to make yourself work in today’s relationship by remembering the past.